The other day I commented on a blog and used the phrase, "I've never been a breeder..." and it really pissed one lady off. She said something like she respected my choice to not have kids, and would appreciate it if I didn't call her a breeder. Well, guess what? I didn't call anyone, anything. I used the term to describe MYSELF. Also, if you give birth to children, you generally have to breed to do so. It's a descriptive term. I didn't write a response but it made me think about just how many things I do or say that people find offensive, that I have absolutely NO interest in fixing.
One time I was working out with my trainer, and I said something about "my gays." A man turned around and said, "Oh, YOUR gays? Like you own them?" and I turned in to a black woman wrapped in a gay man. I said, "Oh, do you not say MY friends? Does that imply ownership of your friends? No. It is a term to describe a subgroup of my friends, so get over yourself. You know who's NOT offended when I say 'my gays?' MY GAYS! How many homos do you hang out with on a regular basis? I'm betting none. So take your PC verbal bullshit and spew it to someone else, 'cause I am trying to exercise here." I also once told my number one gay he should stop plucking 'cause his eyebrows were getting way too faggy. He didn't bat an eyelash as he asked, "Oh god, really? I better lay off a bit." End of story.
I like to shoot guns, and plan on buying a shotgun for my home. I find it to be a great stress relief to go out and blow holes in a target. I learned to shoot from someone who is extremely gun savvy and taught me about gun safety. I am going out next month to an outdoor range so I can shoot with a shotgun. I have only shot at an indoor range. I shot a .44 Magnum and hit the target dead center my first shot. That was pretty exhilerating. I totally agree with the waiting time to get a gun so that background checks can be done. But I'm also okay with people owning fully automatic weapons.
What's strange is that politically I lean pretty close to socialism. I believe we should pay more taxes to make sure everyone has health care. I believe that social programs to help families are a necessity, not a luxury. I believe people who make a ton of money pay far less in to the system than people who make what I do, which isn't much. I believe in a flat tax and everyone paying their share, without being able to hide money in bank accounts or tax shelters.
But I also believe in meaning what you say and saying what you mean. I will never be someone who cares if something I say offends someone, as long as I'm not saying it PURPOSELY to offend someone. I am an intelligent individual and I grew out of my PC mindset in my late teens. I don't have time to carefully calculate the words I say, or the words I type, to try and make sure I don't piss anyone off. I think if you live a life where you don't piss anyone off, you might be doing something wrong.
This does not mean I go balls out at all times. I have manners and etiquette. On Saturday night I went to a few art shows, two of which were extremely packed. At one I was in absolute shock at the people who sat there, glass of wine in hand, having full conversations directly in front of pieces, so that no one else could get up close to take a look. In some cases I said, "Excuse me" if a photograph looked like something I wanted to get a closer look at. But for the most part I just told Rich, "This is why I don't come out for second Saturday art shows anymore. People are entitled assholes who are completely unaware of their surroundings." Past Melanie would've said, "Wow, it sure would be nice if someone could get up to appreciate that piece of art they came to appreciate!" This Melanie just gets a little appalled and leaves.
In closing, I just think it's really important to be yourself at all times. Don't make apologies for being yourself and saying and doing things that amuse you, as long as you're not doing it in a hateful or mean way. And always be polite if you can. If you can't, at least make your rudeness amusing, would you?
Happy picture of the day: This made me laugh all the harder 'cause it looks like it's in a Target or Walmart. If I saw this shirt at Target I would fall to the floor and not stop laughing 'til security came.