I may have broken a world record of how short-lived a profile on an internet dating site is up. I lasted eight days. Eight days before I was so fed up with the state of human beings that I couldn't take it anymore, and had to pull it down so I didn't want to go on a shooting spree. So much for keeping a positive attitude and taking it lightly, eh?
For one thing, I do not take joy in the shortcomings of others. I make fun of people a bit, but when it is thrown in my face how truly ignorant most people are, it actually makes me quite sad. Most of these people have kids. They are raising the future humans of our nation. And I can't imagine with notes like, "I want to cum on ur lips" that they are doing a great job. But hey, maybe that's just me.
I started off as the shiny new thing and got a ton of messages. A lot of them to which I would just not respond, or look over their profile and let them know that it didn't seem like a good match to me, and I didn't want to waste their time, but good luck. I got some messages where we had a teeny bit in common and they seemed thoughtful enough and we messaged a few days. My thing is this: I don't go on sites for pen pals or text buddies. I go on for that crazy notion of you know, going on dates. So if I asked a person if they'd like to get together, and there was no follow through, I was immediately disenchanted and uninterested. What are you afraid of? Why are you on a site to date, if you don't really want to date? If you are just on a site to hook up, that's rad, but be an honest adult about it. I have to wonder why you can't just go to a bar for that. I mean, I'm totally average looking but I guarantee that any night of the week I can go to a bar, walk up to a dude and ask, "Hey, do you like blowjobs? Let's go back to my place" and get some. It's really not that difficult. And don't say it's easier for women, because it's not. It is, however, easier for people with a personality. So perhaps that's the issue.
If you send a note and you can't spell or write a coherent message, I'm immediately over it. I knew by Saturday when I was starting to write back smartass messages, that my time there was done. One fellow wrote the oh so thoughtful message of: "Your pretty." I wrote back, "My pretty what?" To which he responded, "I don't understand." To which I replied something like, "Contractions? Yes, it's quite obvious you don't understand how to use them." I know I'm good at snark and smartass, but unlike years ago when I actually prided myself on it, I am now to a point where I don't like that part of myself. I don't want to belittle people and be mean. Now that I really like myself, I don't feel the need to tear others down for my benefit.
Another problem I have with dating is that it seems most people want to date someone who isn't a challenge. They are looking for someone simple, who is beneath them, so they can feel good by comparison. I am the exact opposite. I want to date someone who I think may have something to teach me. I want to be with someone smarter, someone funnier, and someone who makes me think. I want to be the one in wonder, that I have a partner that I get to look up to. Most imporantly, I need a PARTNER. I have a strong personality, and I most certainly don't want someone who I can dominate.
To me, it makes more sense to give one guy a shot, and if that doesn't happen move on. I can't go out with many people at a time. I don't believe dating is a competition, or should be to make people prove themselves as to why they are worthy of your attention. If you like someone, give it a shot. If it doesn't work out, move on. That's how I have to operate. I am uncomfortable going out with Joe Shmo on Saturday, then Dirk Diggler on Sunday. No can do.
The one man that I messaged there, who hadn't messaged me first, had authors listed in his profile I had never heard of. Authors who once I researched them, had written things that I know I'd love to read. That is what drew me in. There was also a plus in the fact that he didn't drink. His looks didn't hurt either. He's about 5" taller than me, meaning I could wear heels. Shut up, that's important! :) He is the only one I'm still talking to, and to be perfectly honest, I have no hopes that it will go anywhere. It would be nice if it does. I am just getting the vibe that his life is pretty full and it may not have space for a new person in it. If that's the case, that's totally fine. I am of the belief that no matter how busy your schedule, if you want to meet up with someone or talk to them, you will make time. We just exchanged numbers on Monday, and have texted a bit here and there. I can honestly say if we don't have a definite date to get together in the next few days, I will lose interest. You know that saying, "Don't make someone a priority, who only makes you an option"? Well, I fully believe and follow that saying. If you don't make an effort to show you're interested and hang out, I completely deflate. I have a teeny glimmer of hope that this may turn in to something, but that's it. And it's not that I'm a pessimist. It's that I'm a realist.
I also believe whatever is meant to happen will. So I'm not really worried about what comes of it. But I also know that that was my last foray in to the world of online dating. I know there are horrible people in the world. I most certainly don't want to be endlessly bombarded with them. I like my world with amazing people in it. I don't find it fun to come up with bad date stories. Well, sometimes I do. Like the guy I went on a few dates with who only ate things like hot dogs and sandwiches. He will forever be known as the boy with the toddler diet.
Happy picture of the day: this is a picture of my friend Rodney, holding up a burger necklace. It is knitted with a huge knit gold chain, then a giant burger at the end. It is very cute. He is a burger junkie. Here's the proof: Burger Junkies.