You're So Vain...

I bet you think this tweet/Facebook status update/post/conversation is about you.

You know what? 90% of the time when you THINK someone types or says something about you, you're imagining things. But here's a fresh perspective: instead of getting all indignant, "Well ______ should've said that to my face" you instead see if they're right, and try to fix it? Even if they AREN'T talking about you, but you think they are, it obviously struck a nerve about something you feel insecure about.

All you can control in any situation is the way in which you choose to react, or not react. I'm not saying I don't find myself reacting badly a lot of the time still, 'cause I do. But I also know that instead of focusing on, "They had no right to blah blah blah" I focus on how I need to react or respond, so that I won't feel bad about it later.

People tend to personalize a lot of what I say in real life, and on this blog, but I can tell you something honestly. This has nothing to do with you. If I have something I'm upset about with another person I will generally vent it out to another friend. By the time I've done that, that's all I needed most of the time. If that doesn't work then I will calmly bring it up to someone's face. But I can honestly say I laugh when people take something personally that I've said, that has nothing to do with them. And at those times I will say, "You know what? The world doesn't revolve around you. This is not about you. But since you think it does, and that it is, maybe you can focus on that and perhaps tomorrow you won't wander around thinking everyone is out to get you."

I am guilty of personalizing random comments made in public too. But I catch myself and realize people don't care enough to be talking about me. So many people go someplace and if someone is speaking a different language they get insecure 'cause they assume the talking must be about them. So what if it is? If you care what a random person you don't know, thinks about you, you've got bigger problems.

I guarantee you if you stop lashing out about how wrong everyone else is for doing what they do, and shift focus to doing what you need to do to be happy and content, your world will change drastically. Also, everyone else's world will change drastically 'cause they no longer have to deal with the person who is always bitching about something/someone. Believe me, no one finds those kind of people pleasant. Like how this post wasn't pleasant 'cause it's bitching about the bitchers. :) (Yeah, I see what I did there).

Happy picture of the day: homemade lemon poppy seed muffins. I can't just lay around all day when I stay home. I tried really hard not to clean, so I baked instead. Which is probably why my back hurts just as bad, if not worse today. Today I'm not even reading blogs. I'm posting this then going to lay down and take it easy all day. Or until I get restless and have to rearrange my closet or something.