If there is one thing I have gotten good at in the past few years, it's putting things in to perspective. That is not to say I don't occasionally gripe and grumble about my first world problems. I find it eerily coincidental that whenever I get in to one of my entitled white girl moods, as I'm prone to call them, I have something smack me in the face to remind me why I need to shut up and move on.
I have been really unhappy in my employment as of late. I'm working on it, but I have been a total whiney complainer about it. I have a job. I have a home. I'm never hungry. I have great shoes. I need to shut the trap.
The other day I went to Target to return a leaky container of laundry soap I'd purchased. When I got home I noticed there was a puncture hole in the container, and it had leaked all over everything else in the bag, and seeped on to my kitchen counter. I griped and groaned as I cleaned up the mess. Then when my friend got to the house I asked if we could swing by to return it before dinner. We did. The fella helping me was a grumpy early twenty-something, and I actually uttered the phrase to him, "You are the wrong person to be working the customer service counter. Now, if they had a whiney post teen angst counter, that would be the place for you."
The following morning I was driving to work and there was a homeless fella with a sign. I quickly gathered up all the change in my wallet and rolled down my window and motioned him over. I apologized, "It isn't much. I'm sorry." He had a huge grin on his face showing his total of two teeth or so and said, "Anything helps. Thanks so much!" He then went on to say that I just helped him to get some coffee, and how life was great. He made my day. I thought to myself, "Here is a man who has no home, who's covered in dirt, who has no idea where his next meal is coming from, and he's the cheeriest person I've seen in weeks. What the hell is wrong with the rest of us????"
It really recharged my battery and changed my whole outlook. I need these reminders and I can't help but think there is something out there in the universe that sends them to me. They happen way too often to just be by chance. I am eternally grateful for them.
I haven't complained about my job in days. I have been back to my smiling, look on the bright side self. I have been kind to others, and jovial, and when I visited Unicorn this weekend I was downright perky. It was nice. I am hoping to some day get to a point where I can switch gears like this on my own, without the help of a random stranger to nudge me out of the uglies.
So thanks random homeless dude. Random homeless dude who I maybe gave 50 cents to, who changed not only my day, but my whole life for a while. And in turn, you changed the life of those I care about who don't have to listen to me gripe for a while. You do good work fella. I just wish you could get paid for it, because you totally deserve it. If there were a career for, "Make someone happy, and in turn that'll make someone else happy" you would be rich as hell. It's a crying shame the position doesn't exist.
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Tuesday, July 3, 2012
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entitled white girl, yes I know exactly what you mean! I remember driving in my brand new car home from my well paying job, sitting in traffic in 90 degree weather with a/c and thinking Well this sucks! and being all pissy when who should come by but the ice cream man on a bike pulling his little wagon, outside in 90 degree heat with no hat but waving and smiling. shut me the hell up
ReplyDeleteDo you not love it when that happens? I really do. Most of the time I literally laugh out loud at myself for being such a retard. Which then gives people more fodder to laugh at the weird girl. "Why in the fuck is that girl laughing so hard at nothing?"
ReplyDeleteYup. This weather has been ridiculous--upper 90s and humid with no rain for a week and no relief in sight. It's truly miserable. However, then I hear about people that have lost their power in this heat or the fires in Colorado and it puts things in perspective. No, I can't do anything outside and my grass is going brown, but at least I can be comfortable inside...and safe. It's perspective.
ReplyDeleteP.S. I will add that just because it's not a catastrophe doesn't mean something isn't a stress or a problem though. It's all important if it affects you, but it's not important enough to make it the reason you're crabbing around.
Mine has been upper 90s too. I have to water tonight. My lawns always look horrible.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes I agree on your PS. Do you know how many things stress me out that shouldn't? A gazillion. That's how many. Haha
I love this post. Right now, the 'message' that keeps coming my way is that of 'Quitcher whinin' and LIVE LIFE despite your purposed limitations, because the only limitations we encounter are the ones we place on ourselves. I personally believe God sends us these messages, pointing us ever closer to the face of love and reaching out to others, and getting the heck over ourselves. He gives me swift kicks about the pants often. :)
ReplyDeleteI totally agree. I get in my slumps where everything is getting on my nerves, and I need something to remind me why I need to get over it.
ReplyDeleteI wrote this Friday, and today I'm in that mood where I want everyone to just shut up and leave me alone. So homeless fella only worked for a few days. Sorry homeless fella. I suck. haha
This is great! So interesting how someone who by outward appearances has nothing of value to share with anyone, yet can impart something so important just by being himself. I am always in need of refreshers as to what really matters!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great post! I've been in one of those whine and complain about how much I hate my job moods too. It's nice to see a reminder that it's really not that bad.
ReplyDeleteIt's true Kianwi. Sometimes the reminders come from the most surprising places.
ReplyDeleteThanks Danielle! I have been boohooing a lot about mine lately too. Not anymore. I'm going to just deal with it until I find a new job. No more complaining.
Really great post. I'm still working on my shit-talking problem, but I think it's getting better. I believe in the 'pay it forward' philosophy of kindness, etc. I really think that if I can make someone smile and laugh, they may carry that on to the next person they interact with. And that's awesome.
ReplyDeleteAww, what a nice story! I wonder if the homeless guy knows what a difference he made to you!
ReplyDeleteDo you know I read a book recently saying that if you simply smile at people or say thank you that you can give someone who has had a rubbish day a little boost of happiness. And actually smiling at more people has made me happier in general. And the best thing is that it's free :-)
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@Reanna,
ReplyDeleteI still talk a ton of shit too. Just way less than I used to.
@Kellie,
I went back and told him, and gave him some food I'd bought him.
perspective is everything...and ripple effects reflect whatever you put out there, whether is't positive or negative...besides, whining is exhausting!
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