The past two weeks I've been an absolute bear. I've been ranting and venting about Rich and I am really sad that I have stooped. My back hurting, and me not sleeping, is no excuse. He's a good guy and I need to concentrate on his good points and stop focusing on the bad. He has very little bad, and the bad he does have, he is really struggling with to make better. I have been a horrible girlfriend.
I apologized to him, and he had no idea what I was talking about. He didn't even notice. He is such a good guy, that even when I'm not so perfect and not so positive, he doesn't even see it. HE DIDN'T EVEN KNOW I WAS BEING HORRIBLE. I need to be more appreciative of stuff like that. Once when we first started dating we were hanging out with a couple that was nitpicking. I said, "I'm glad we're not like that. I'm glad that even though there are things about each other we may not care for, we don't treat each other like that." He actually turned to me and said, "There's nothing about you I don't like." I almost died. I felt like a jerk. But not half the jerk I feel like right this minute.
He showed up last night in jeans and a t-shirt. He had a pair of slacks, a nice sweater, and a pair of dress shoes with him to change in to so he could look nice at dinner. He looked so handsome after he changed my heart melted a little. It melted a little more when he came out of the bathroom with his hair sticking up all crazy bedhead in the back. I said, "Babe, your hair back there is a little..." He started mussing with the other side. I said, "No hon, the other...." and he started mussing with the front. He knew where his hair was sticking up but was totally messing with me. This made me smile and I said, "It doesn't hurt here, or here, but kind of right here" and we both laughed.
He sat next to me on the couch and I leaned over on him, then I said, "I can't really sit like that. It makes my back hurt." So he leaned back on the edge of the couch and said, "Here, can you lay on me if I sit like this?" It looked really uncomfortable so I asked, "But are you comfortable now?" He answered, "Not terribly, but I know you want to snuggle and if you'll be more comfortable in this position, I can work with it." I wanted to cry. This man deserves a nicer, gentler Melanie.
So that's what I'm working on today. I need to try and catch myself when I'm venting and horrible and it has NOTHING to do with the other person. It's a personality trait I loathe. I don't like folks who project. I need to stop being one of them.
He brought me this, and it is cheesy, and absolutely perfect and I love it.
Oh, and random picture of the day: this lady put up a sign to let folks know she moved. I want to bring her an inflatable palm tree tomorrow and take it to her and say, "I wasn't sure if they had these on your side of the isle." Misspelled signs amuse me terribly. Same lady once had a box labeled, "Miscellaneous Shread." I took a red pen and did an edit mark to remove the a. I'm an ass.
That was great. The fact that he is actively working on his faults and has so much upside is a great sign. Of course you have flaws too, but it looks like you're working on those too. Two people focused on self-improvement!?! You make me sick. Freaking perfectionists. (faux-outrage in case it doesn't come through in print)
ReplyDeleteNo, that was really sweet.
And I love unintentional typos. The things that spell check doesn't catch.
I know, right? I make myself sick sometimes with this, "Be a better person" mumbo jumbo.
ReplyDeleteI love unintentional typos too. I type over 80 wpm so I do them constantly. She is just a really poor speller.
I often laugh about the fact that a good portion of my job is editing, and my blog is chalk-full or horrendous grammar and punctuation. Chock-full? Anyways, it's effin' full of the stuff.
Oh, and good work on using the word whoopie in your comment replies today. Impressive!
You got a KEEPER!! I love how he goes the extra mile for you. I've never heard of a guy that made himself uncomfortable so his lady could be cozy :)
ReplyDeleteKudos for being able to recognize your wrong. He's a lucky guy too b/c being able to admit your wrong w/o be told is a great quality.
Don't be too hard on yourself! We all have faults :)
Your Vday sounds wonderful!!
He is a keeper. I'm definitely keeping him around until he decides it's time to go wife and baby momma huntin'. :)
ReplyDeleteWe had a great night. The food was wonderful. Our server kind of annoyed me but that's just because I'm super picky. He copped a bit of an attitude with my girlfriend, and didn't explain what cheeses were on our cheese plate. I still tipped him 20%, which was no small sum on our hefty tab.
Good for you that you recognize that there's an issue and are trying to change. And the bf sounds like a gem!
ReplyDeleteHe is fantastic. We'll have to double date some time. You didn't really get a chance to talk with him at Sampino's.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I sometimes think your bf isn't real. Why haven't I met him yet? Hmmmmmm? :)
I so look forward to Audrey movies and spaghetti Sunday. I just found out Charade will be bye bye on Friday. We still have War and Peace, and Breakfast at Tiffany's. I may go looking for a copy of Sabrina or Roman Holiday.
Ha ha...we should! We'll have to go out on a kidlet-free night. :)
ReplyDeletePS Oooooo, Sabrina........
ReplyDeleteSabrina is the movie that created her partnership with Givenchy. The moment he saw her in the black and white dress he had made for her, he made almost all her clothes after.
ReplyDeleteWhat's funny is when she first walked in he kind of scoffed 'cause she was so waifish and tiny. He cut that out when she walked out a beauty queen. I love that story.
Don't be so hard on yourself. You are fabulous!
ReplyDeleteWhy thanks lady! You ain't too shabby your dang self!
ReplyDeleteI am a work in progress. That I am certain of.
Re: Misspelled signs.
ReplyDeleteI literally did this today. A lady wrote: "Traigning 2/27/12) on the white board outside her cubicle. I erased the extra g with my finger. :)
Someone's gotta do it.
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