The Blame Game

According to how many people play it, you would think it was the most fun game in all the world! People seem to love whining and finger pointing about why they are having such a hard time, why something went wrong, or why their life is so drama filled. Instead of doing what makes sense and just figuring out how to fix stuff, everyone always feels so much better talking about how "So and so did this and it is stressing me out!!" Valid rant. But more valid would be, "Why is it stressing you out? Is there anything you can do to fix it? If not, maybe the people always stressing you out don't need to be around anymore."

If there is one theme I overhear most often when I'm being the nosey ass busy body at work that I am, it's "I can't believe ________ did ___________. What an ass!" And believe you me, I find myself sometimes doing it too. Who doesn't? The difference between the people I value, and these people I hear at work, is it is almost a constant. I can tell you the people in my work area who always have something to bitch and complain about. And as my friend Christina would say about this entry, "Hey Melanie! Are you complaining about the complainers again?" GUILTY!

I know I need to get to a place where I don't worry about it. I need to just laugh about the people who are constantly in strife instead of wanting to yell at them, "You can fix that!" 'Cause I know they don't want to fix it. They want to complain about other people. If you complain about other people and that is your focus, you never have to really look inward and see that the only constant thing in all your stress and strife, is you.

I am lucky and blessed in that work is the only place where I have to deal with people like this. The people I am surrounded by in life outside of work are positive and proactive people. They are messed up and crazy, but they are pretty self aware of it and therefore we can all laugh about each other's shit. We take it in stride and when bad stuff happens we figure out what we need to do to make it better, and we do it. One time my sister called and immediately started complaining. I said, "One day you're going to call and say life is good and you're happy, and I'm going to fucking die of a heart attack. Why is it that you never have anything good to say? Your life can't be that bad. And if it is, why is that?" She was not happy, but after at least 10 conversations, all about complaints, I had to say SOMETHING. I can only listen and be passive for so long.

I have a grand idea, whenever something super shitty happens in your life totally vent about the person that pissed you off. Then think about if that person always pisses you off. Then next time they piss you off, you can't say shit because you chose to let that person stay in your life. It goes back to my rule, "You are allowed to complain about something three times, then you need to do something to fix it if it's fixable." And don't tell me something isn't fixable unless it's a severe health issue. Otherwise, it can be fixed. It's just a matter of being proactive, or shutting up about it already.

Now excuse me while I go working about fixing all of my bitching about people who bitch. In the meantime, watch this ridiculous thing that should be a joke, but sadly isn't. They also have a yoga video. I have dubbed this video "Cardio for Suicide Girls who we wish would actually commit suicide." The yoga one I would suggest they all do the pose: "Go die in a fire." What do you mean that isn't a yoga pose? Shut up.
Cardio For Indie Rockers. So many things are wrong with this. Just SO.MANY.THINGS.

Oh, you don't believe me about the yoga one? Yoga For Indie Rockers. My friend Ilene dubbed it "Yoga for Hot Topic workers." So true.

You don't get a happy picture of the day. Those videos are all kindsa crappy pictures of the day.