I Don't Enjoy Speaking Badly About People

I have noticed a lot lately how many people seem to really revel in gossiping or talking badly about others. And I'm not saying I'm never guilty of it. But when I do it I actually feel bad and try and catch myself. I think people constantly degrading others is a sure sign of low self-esteem and folks who don't like themselves. I do not want to be someone exhibiting that behavior. It's something I constantly work on.

Now, don't get me wrong, I will be TOTALLY sarcastic about someone doing or wearing something silly, or if my friend makes a choice that I think is ridiculous. I usually keep my mouth shut and let folks make their own mistakes. Then when they come to me after I'm like, "Yep, bad idea jeans!" But sometimes when they're in the middle of making what I think is a really bad choice I will pipe in without thinking. Then I have to remind myself to only give advice if it's asked for.

I went to a get together a few months back and it seemed that all the people were doing was saying stuff like, "Did you hear what blah blah blah did to so and so?" I mean, the whole time. It was hard for me to bite my tongue because I believe venting is healthy. This was not venting. This was people saying things behind the backs of others, that I know they would never say to their face. I don't like that. I was really good because I did not say even one time, "I'm glad you got to vent this out. Now when you actually go talk to THEM about it you can do so tactfully and calmly. That's such a good idea." *sarcastic smile.*

Whenever I find myself in this sort of situation I just make a note to myself who not to hang out with again. I like to be around positive people. People who if they are complaining, are doing so about themselves and how tired they are. Or how they are trying to get a hold on things. Not spend the entire time focused on the faults of others. I think the main thing holding people back from being better, is that they focus far too much on what others "aren't doing right." How about you focus on what you aren't doing right, and fix it? 'Cause that's all you have control over.

It makes me sad that I feel like more and more people are really not at all interested in being self aware. They'd much rather talk about why society is to blame for why they feel fat and ugly, or why their dad is to blame because they have intimacy issues. How about instead of that you just work on yourself so that these things don't effect you so much? Lessen the blow and like yourself and be healthy regardless of the forces around you that may be trying to get you down. No, I'm not saying, "Just get over it." It is okay to feel insecure and low sometimes. It is perfectly fine to have to call me crying 'cause you are having one of those days. But it's also perfectly fine to figure out what to do so you have less of those days. Wouldn't that be awesome? To have less and less days where you feel just plain icky? I know I like having less of them. And boy, do I still have enough of them.

I am dwelling today on the guy who ran in to me on the freeway when I was stopped in traffic, and he was going 45 mph. He is the reason I have back issues, and today I want to stab him in the face. And it's okay to feel that way. I have acupuncture tomorrow so hopefully my murderous thoughts will go away soon. :)

We all talk bad about people sometimes. I think the key is to try and understand why we feel the need to do so. Usually it's because we are feeling bad about ourselves, or we're angry. I choose to not have people in my life that make me angry a ton. That way I don't have to sit around talking about them negatively. It's a waste of time. I'd rather be thinking of a way to bludgeon the guy who hit me with a rusty nail. 'Cause that's what I call useful!!

Happy picture of the day: this is so meta nerd.